Archive for April, 2011


Whenever I actually decide to tell people I know in person about this blog, or even if I comment on other blogs, and in general, get the blog in others hands, I may or may not remove this post. But, in honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, I’d like to share a few of the “voices of infertility” that resonate with me.


Unexplained infertility has made me a defective woman. I have sat in the REs office for countless hours trying not to cry. I have had more internal exams than  fertile woman goes though in a lifetime; I do it all with the added burden of shame. — Cheryl

A life of envy.

I hate the mommy envy I feel everyday. I hate treating baby showers like they are filled with H1N1.”Are u crazy, I not going to her shower! I’ll cry at home in the privacy of my own home thank u very much!” 7 yrs, 2 failed IUI’s, next is IVF. — Tanya

No help for many years.

From 16 years old to 26, doctors told me the pain in my abdomen wasn’t real.  I was finally diagnosed with endometriosis.  It had gotten so bad over the years, it completely destroyed my ovaries. We’ve now adopted 2 children and are very happy. — Lara

I’m sorry, but no. You don’t understand.

I’m sorry that you miscarried, I truly am. But now you have children. I’m sorry you didn’t get pregnant the first month you tried. But you did the next month. Don’t tell me you understand unless you’re in the trenches with me. It hurts too much. — Sara

Adoption is not the Answer PETA.

I want to share with PETA that adopting doesn’t work for everyone. After 2 years struggling with infertitlity we were turned away by adoption agencies for being too young or not married long enough. Learn your facts on the issue! — Danielle  (why, PETA??)

Fertile Family…Except Me.

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for (almost) 4 years. His tests are all normal. I do have a mild case of endometriosis but other than that, am healthy. Our next step is IUI or just keep trying. It has been a long and frustrating 4 years. — Amy

Young and infertile.

The last thing we expected when we started TTC was that we would be infertile and still trying 3 years later. I’m stronger for it, but I’d give anything to take the pain away… No one realizes how much guilt and infertility go hand in hand. — Lindsay

Finally, I’d like to point out all of the infertility blogs that are busting myths this week.  I’d encourage anybody who stops by this blog, particularly if you know somebody who is experiencing infertility or loss (which, by the way, 1 out of every 8 couples do, so you likely do know somebody–they just don’t talk about it) to visit this site and read these blogs.  Some of these entries may be shocking and quite offensive for those who have never experienced something like this, but know that for most people blogging, this is their only outlet because they’re not telling people in their real lives what they’re experiencing.  I think education is the key, especially in this day and age where social networking makes an infertile person feel even more ostracized and ashamed.


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Reading Challenges

As somebody who works in the field of books, I do happen to read a lot.  If you’re interested in what I’ve read so far this year, feel free to check out my reading page.  One of my major goals over the next few years is to read all of the major children and young adult award winners (Caldecott, Newbery, and Printz awards).  I’m working on the Caldecotts and Newberys now, since there aren’t too many Printz winners yet (and I’ve thankfully read most of those anyways).

I’m starting from the beginning with each, skipping those that I’ve already read, and will update when I complete each decade.

The Newberys have been rough thus far (at least the Caldecotts are short) and I’m going to have to take a break at the end of the 1920s to flesh out my current Richard III obsession, which I will write about at another time.

Reading these award winners has been a goal of mine since graduate school, so I’m happy to be working on it 5 years after graduation.

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